Another piece from Charly
Boy...enjoy...
Wanting so badly to get
hooked is something many
people seem to take far too
lightly and for granted
these days. Something some
of them feel they should do
to win acceptance from
people and society. These
days’ people look at the
package and never the
content, forgetting that
marriage should be a life
time commitment of two
strangers. In some cases
the marriage may workout,
like, Charles and Diane,
Tunde and Wummie. But
most of the time it falls
like a park of cards, because
as people are rushing to
get in, people are rushing to
get out, at an alarming
rate. Kai!!
These days break ups and
divorce has become the
trend as soon as the honey
Moon is over. People use to
think that divorce rate is
only high amongst
celebrities, but now, across
board, couples are falling
asunder, going under the
pressure of a very bad
decision , just because they
Must Marry.
In these hard times, people are
blowing and burning pots of
money on very fancy weddings
that really don't last after
the honey moon. In this age,
some parents still pressure
their daughters in getting
married early. It's like, once
your girl crosses the 30yrs
bracket, they start to panic,
getting anxious and putting
pressure on their girl to get
married, like it is that easy.
She just can't go to the
market and buy a husband, or
can she? When the poor girl
insists on finding her dream
man, she is accused of being
unserious. Parents please learn
to back off joor, it's not by
force. After all, are they the
ones who will leave with the
spouse?
There is nothing wrong with
waiting for the right person,
because if it is the
razzmatazz of the wedding
things that you enjoy, go
ahead and throw yourself a big
nonstop party for a whole
week. After all, weddings are
just one day event, but a
marriage is supposed to be a
life time thing. I know that
weddings are fun, romantic and
you can finally tell your
girlfriends, boyfriends or your
sugar daddy's that you have
finally captured your own
‘mugu’. But has this guy been
tried and tested? Dating and
courting is a different matter
from ‘Till Death Do You Part’.
Living with one human being
for the rest of your life. My
sister look the thing well
oooo. Bebe, do you have an idea
how your guy functions in
rough weather? When reality
bites, is he calm or does he
freak out? Do you share the
same interest in some things?
Bebe, before you rush into this
marriage, it is important to
learn where your partner
stands on the bigger issues of
your life together. Do you
have the same values? Sit him
down and have a long talk
about these and other issues
that are of importance to you,
you may discover that chances
of a long lasting marriage
could be slimmer; women are
intuitively wired to pick up
these things. Are you a
learner?
For me, I got hooked up with a
woman I never saw coming and
a woman I will never let go.
When I met my wife, she was
not even a girlfriend or a
lover. I liked her physically,
because she had and still have
curves that men would die for,
but she was never my idea of
a wife. She kept hanging
around like other beautiful
women around me; it was more
or less a platonic relationship.
All the time I didn't know I was
under the microscope of the FBI
and the CIA. She was to tell
me all this after our marriage.
Even though we dated for
about 3yrs, in my wildest
dream I never saw her coming
till one morning after sleeping
over, she woke me up, looked
me straight into my sleepy
eyes and demanded that I
marry her in the next few
days or she will leave me.
Wow! Before then, no one ever
threatened me like that, no
one ever gave me ultimatums.
Who born them? Me CharlyBoy?
Little did I know that this
woman for years has been
doing research on me, this
woman has seen me ‘finish’,
figured out how to arrest and
deal with me. When I was
much younger, I had a very
violent temper, I was
obnoxious. And she had
witnessed me a few times in
my rage with other women.
"Ain't you afraid that I will
hurt or harm you" to that she
answered, "you can never hurt
or harm me because I will
never give you a reason to"
hummmmmm!!! Oh! See finish.
Bebe, it's easy to know what
you are getting into. If in
doubt, investigate, set exams
for the guy. I believe women
are emotionally smarter than
men. You must know who you
want to marry, it's important
for your happiness. You don't
deserve scrap especially if you
are hardworking, intelligent,
progressive and forward
looking. Investigate him from
all angles, don't be in a rush
joor. You don't deserve that
heartache because the way
marriages are crashing, it's
making me catch cold.
With the way things are going,
very soon we will be throwing
divorce parties and inviting
friends and well-wishers to
celebrate divorce
anniversaries. They will choose
asoebe, hire a big hall, with
Dbanj as the entertainer and
Julius Agu as the MC. Even
questions like, "when are you
getting your divorce" will be
the buzz.
So if you know you can't
handle the pressure, remain
single. If the man is still under
investigation, please take your
time, don't rush. If you know
that you are too horny to be
faithful, biko remain single and
have a ball. If you can't endure
bad weather from time to
time, stay in your father’s
house joor. Never get married
out of desperation or because
other people are getting
married. If you want a
beautiful home, like mine,
examine your choice of a life
partner, there are a lot of
gigolos out there preying on
desperate babes like you. But
show them say you pass them.
No be you?